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People in long distance relationships can have a hard time staying connected, because couples are limited in what they can do together. Many are limited to phone calls, emails, instant messaging, and texting which can become a bit humdrum over time, if you ask me. It is important to keep things interesting. Here is a list of things you can do with your boyfriend/girlfriend as well as things you can do for them from a distance.

Michelle & Frank

41. Pass the test?

Not something for long distance couples to do together/for each other, but for long distance couples nonetheless. Here are some fun LDR quizzes to take to see if your relationship can survive (I don't know how accurate they are, so take them just for fun!):

• Will Your Long Distance Relationship Last?/a>
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• Will Your Relationship Survive the Long-Distance Test?
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• Is your long distance relationship rocking or is it in the rocks?
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• Long Distance Relationship Quiz - Success or Break Up
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• For a more indepth, serious look at your LDR: Separated and Suffering? How to Tell if Your Long Distance Relationship is at Risk
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42. "Be naughty."

This is something that maybe you've done or thought about doing in your long distance relationship. Anni who is also in a long distance relationship suggests: Be naughty from time to time. When you're in love it simply belongs to it that you are intimate, and you shouldn't let the distance affect your "private time." Even if you're not in the same room, state, country or continent, it doesn't matter. All you need is a phone, instant messaging or (my personal favorite) a webcam. Tell him/her what you think and how you feel. Tell him/her naughty things. Write a romantic/erotic story with the two of you or do role-playing. If you wanna go farther, use your webcam and show your partner a little "more" of you. Only try this with your partner if you feel comfortable doing this with them. If you've never been physically intimate with your boyfriend/girlfriend before, this can either be a gradual transition to that stage, or you may not feel comfortable doing these things on the phone/webcam until you've been with them in person, or you may never be comfortable. If both people aren't completely comfortable with the idea, then you shouldn't do it. If you need help gaining confidence here are some websites with some helpful advice on the subject:

• How to have Long Distance Sex
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• Phone Sex
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• How to talk dirty

43. Shout it from the rooftops!

Something you can do on our website! Submit a shout-out to your long distance boyfriend/girlfriend and have it posted on our website. Go here to read others shout-outs and to fill out the form to submit your own: Shout-Out To Your Love!

44. Share LDR bracelets.

Get one for your girlfriend/boyfriend, or for yourself too.

Show off your long distance pride. A keychain option is also available. You can include a special message too!

To check them out go here: LDR Bracelets

45. Make a card.

I've done this many times. I usually make them for special holidays for Frank, but a handmade card can be appreciated any day of the year. Often I draw and create my own cards, but if you're not confident about your artistic abilities check out these sites for help and great card ideas: SmartArtCards.com (sign up to get free card making ideas) and Making-Greeting-Cards.com. Want to send a card right away and don't have enough time or the materials to make your own card? Check out Hallmark's personalized cards with sound where you can choose a song to add to it and add your own words. When you order any Hallmark paper card, you can add your own words (or use their own) and they'll mail the card for you.

46. Watch a concert together.

This is a great idea if you both like the same music. Even if you don't like the same music genres, watching your boyfriend/girlfriend's favorite band play is a way to show them that you care about his/her interests. This is definitely a combination of ideas 1 and 16, but unique enough to set it apart. Check out these links where you can watch concerts for free online (some shows you can watch live!):

• FabChannel.com
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• AOL Music Live Concerts
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• SyncLive.com

47. Send video messages.

I just discovered this great online application that lets you send video messages. It is like getting emails in video format! And it's free! This can be really ideal for couples who don't get to talk to each other a lot on the phone or webcam due to extreme differences in time zones. "EyeJot.com is the first, comprehensive, client-free online video messaging platform ideal for both personal and business communications. It offers everyone the ability to create and receive video messages in a self-contained, spam-free environment. With no client to install, you can start using Eyejot immediately with any browser, on any platform."

48. Send your scent.

I've done this for Frank before. What I did was I took a piece of felt and cut out a heart shape. I then spritzed a small amount of the perfume I wore at the time on it, and sent it to him so he could smell "me." If you've been with your LDR boyfriend/girlfriend before in person, getting the chance to smell "them" can turn on some very strong emotions. The power of scent on our memories and emotions is amazing. I love the smell of Frank's deodorant and as funny as it sounds, I miss smelling him. So when I'm shopping and go by the deodorant aisle, I always stop to pick up the exact deodorant he always buys, and I take the cap off to get a whiff, and for a second it feels like he's right there. :)

49. Write a poem.

You don't have to write a serious love poem necessarily. Try writing a poem about your usual day, a poem about the things that make you think of him/her, or the things you miss about him/her. Make it a fun poem. You don't have to be overwhelmingly romantic with a long drawn out poem about your hearts as one and her eyes. An everyday, short, funny, cute poem can be appreciated just as much, if not more. If you want your poem to rhyme, here's a nifty tool to help you find the right words: RhymeZone.com

50. Send a personal cryptoquip.

51. Fun love generators.

I've listed certain love generators before, and now I've decided to put the rest I find here. So this is a little list within a list that may grow!

• Declaration of Romantic Intent: Fill out this cute form and send to your boyfriend/girlfriend.
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• Love Poem Generator: A MadLib love poem generator you might like. You enter your own words and it generates a poem for you. I tried it out, I don't know if it made much sense, haha, but it was funny. If you don't like the poem it generates, just click at the bottom "Let me try another love poem generator" to try again.
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• Love Letter Generator: You write the letter, and this generator generates an image of your letter that you can put on your website, blog, or MySpace.
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• Valentine's Day Love Letter Generator: Choose the occasion (Valentine's Day, Anniversary,or no occasion - standard love letter) and answer the questions. It generates a love letter you can copy and paste.
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• Love/Valentine Poem Generator: another love poem generator. You choose the lines of the poem.

52. Write your story.

People remember things differently, and memories may fade or alter overtime. So this is why I came up with this idea. You and boyfriend/girlfriend can each write your love story. Include details of how you met, when your feelings started to change for him/her, how you felt when you first told them you had feelings for them, or how you felt when they told you they had feelings for you for the first time. What were your first impressions of each other? What initially attracted you to him/her? Who initiated the first kiss? Were you aware he/she had feelings for you before any confessions were made? What is your favorite memory as a couple? Who said "I love you" first? Where was your first date? How did you initially feel about being in a long distance relationship? Include everything you can remember. Exchange your stories, and I'm sure you'll have your own "Oh Yeah!" moments and remember things you had forgotten about or hadn't remembered correctly. You may learn things you never realized before. And as a plus, you'll have documented an important part of your life that you can keep forever.

53. Make Babies! :P

Well, not real babies... haha. MakeMeBabies.com is a website that can take two images (one of you and your boyfriend/girlfriend) and generates an image of what your future child might look like. It is the coolest thing ever! :) Take a look at our baby! (mine and Frank's) on the right: The program doesn't pay special attention to skin tone, just facial features. Because that is one pale baby, and I'm medium toned. I think you have to have a much darker skin tone for the program to notice. I think it does do a good job with the facial features though; I can see the resemblance.

Thank you Cayenne for suggesting this website! :)

Here's another cool website you can try out... Melissa suggests going to Cyberinfants.com and adopting your own virtual baby that you both can care for.

Not ready for a baby? :P Try adopting a virtual pet: AdoptMe.com

54. How much do I love you?

This next idea is an email game created by Evan.

I made up this little game for my gf and I to play... all you do is email each other "how much you love them" and the point is to use analogies and try to top the last one sent. Example would be: "I love you like pigeons love statues." And then she'll reply with one and keep trying to make them better and better, really makes you think when your out and about working and whatnot. You find yourself trying to look around for an idea for a better one. Just a little something that you can have some fun with. =)

55. "I'll see you in my dreams."

Okay, you're gonna think, "Well that's quite a stretch," or, "This girl is crazy." Well let me tell you something, this is number 55 and the ideas aren't coming so easy!

Well today I thought of something Frank used to say a lot to me before we went to sleep: "I'll try to dream of you tonight." As I'm sure many of you in long distance relationships have said or at least wanted to do on occasion. So I did a little research and yes, it is possible to be able to control your dreams. They are called lucid dreams. I've had them before a few times but never practiced or trained myself to recognize I was in dreamland. One time I realized I was dreaming and immediately was excited and the first thing I wanted to do was fly. I kept jumping up and down until I finally was able to float up! I totally did not think of Frank, or the possibility of materializing him there. It just never occured to me. So anyways, back to my research, I found that you can actually control whether or not your dream is lucid, just by simply realizing you're dreaming, and once you do, the fun begins! You control your surroundings and who's there, and more importantly what you can do. What do you have to lose by trying? You have to sleep and dream anyway! So here are some links to educate yourself, and maybe tonight you can make the distance disappear.

• How to Have Lucid Dreams
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• Dream Control
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• How to Control Your Dreams

56. Apologize for something stupid you did.

Okay, we all do stupid things once in awhile that hurts our other half from afar. Often they usually require an apology. Sometimes though it can be hard to overcome our pride and say "sorry." And then sometimes saying sorry doesn't cut it, and the hurt party throws it back in your face and tells you that you don't really mean it. We've all been there right? Well when you're at a distance, apologies are even harder, for example, you can't offer a comforting hug to make the other person feel better. And can you really help it if he/she is giving you the cold shoulder and they're not responding to phone calls or email?

So anyways, I found this form, and I know it can't replace a hug, but it might just make them smile again. All you have to do is fill it out and whamo bamo, you have yourself a formal apology! Formal Apology Form. Also try: Record of Remorse.

57. Design something unique.

A while ago Frank designed for me a cute little item with his own special message: "You are loved." There are a couple sites out there that will let you custom design pretty much any product you want... clothing, hats, mugs, bags, even shoes... the list goes on. All you have to do is upload an image you've made or a picture and resize it on the product of your choosing. Leave the rest of the work up to them. Check out Zazzle.com. (very simple and easy to use! not to mention lots of fun!)

58. Keepsake boxes.

I save everything I get from Frank including cards and letters. I also save things like bus tickets, movie tickets for movies Frank and I have seen together, the first rose Frank gave me (it's dried), as well as a multitude of other things that I have accumulated during our relationship. Right now I have them all in one of those clear plastic storage boxes with a lid... all those special things in a not so special box. So I have come up with this idea because it is something I would like to do myself. Make keepsake boxes for each other! Go to any arts & crafts store and you'll find boxes... wooden or durable cardboard boxes that are plain so you can decorate them as you wish. Use paint, pictures, stickers, messages, etc to decorate the outside of the box. Find a nice fabric, faux fur, or felt to line the inside. Exchange your boxes the next time you see each other or mail them. And now you have a special box your boyfriend/girlfriend made for you, to put all your special things in. :)

59. Hold hands.

Thad is the genius behind this next idea. Thad writes:

Last weekend when my girlfriend, Cheryl, was visiting I got another idea for you to add to you list. We were visiting a bookstore in western Massachusetts that is housed in an old mill -- its an amazing place and it was a great time to go through children's books with Cheryl (she's an elementary school teacher) but its not the subject of my idea. As we were driving south on I-91 to Springfield, Massachusetts to meet a friend for dinner we happened to pass the Yankee Candle company factory. She had heard that you could dip your own candles so we decided to turn around and find our way there. As it turns out, you can't actually visit the factory itself, but they have a pretty amazing visitor center with shops and restaurants a bit farther up the road. And yes you can dip your own candles and other wax creatures. The idea I wanted to share is that you can also do wax molds of your own hands. We each did one, and are planning to trade them off. This would make a nice wonderful gift, and it was a really fun experience. They're only $5 each and it only takes a few short minutes. So if you're in the area, I strongly recommend a visit to the Yankee Candle Shops in South Deerfield, Massachusetts.

Wax Hands at Yankee Candle

If you aren't anywhere near Massachusetts, don't worry! You can also find hand molding kits in any crafts store. Just think... you'll be able to hold his/her hand whenever you want to! :) Thank you for the awesome idea Thad! :)

60. Pillow Talk.

EJ and Amanda both sent me ideas for things LDR couples can do when they rest their heads at night:

Well, I don't know if other people do this, but what I do with my long distance boyfriend, is we sleep on the phone together. We just set the phone down next to us and say our goodnights and then fall asleep. It's so nice and comforting to know they are there. And sometimes during the night I wake up and just listen to him breathe! It's amazing! - Amanda I don't if I could consider this sharing advice, but other people in LDRs could try this too. Since me and my love both sleep with more than one pillow on our bed, I came up with an idea. When she comes to see me, I'm gonna give her one of my pillows and she's gonna give me one of hers. It'll be like sleeping with each other every night :) - EJ

61. Save those nice texts :)

Your phone only holds so many texts, and it can be hard to delete those very sweet texts our boyfriends/girlfriends send us sometimes. You don't have to do it anymore though! :) Check out TreasureMyText.com, a free service that lets you save your text messages! Here is how it works:

You forward SMS messages by SMS to a standard mobile number in either USA and Canada, The United Kingdom or The Netherlands. Just pick the one for your country or wherever it is cheapest to SMS to. Check with your network operators about charges. Once you’ve signed up for an account, when you login all your messages will be there. You can organise them, publish them elsewhere and share them in a public TextStream page.

62. Make conversation.

Many people have written questions to us and I'd say that one of the more common complaints we hear is that their conversations get dull over time. If you find yourself having a lot of silent pauses and don't know what to say, here's a list of conversation starters you might have fun with: Conversation Starters... What If?

63. Make them a song.

Sommer shared with me how her long distance boyfriend wrote her a song and played it for her on his guitar. For those that are musically inclined, I'm sure this idea has crossed your mind. But if you're not good with instruments and can't carry a tune in a bucket, then this website might be able to help you out a bit. JamStudio.com is a flash based program that allows you to make your own songs with their hundreds of pre-recorded sound clips. Pick from a variety of intruments, choose your own chords, tempo, and more. There is a sample song of a featured artist on that page so you can see how limitless your possibilities are. Another website you can try is SpliceMusic.com. Here, you can take two or more songs and combine them to make a new song. This also has a demo that is very helpful.

Check out FruityLoops and Acid if you want to use a more advanced program (they cost money, but both have free trials).

64. Take a free class together.

You can expand your knowledge and do something as a couple at the same time! There are tons of free online courses that you can take from schools such as Yale, MIT, and Tufts. Completely free of cost. Who'd a thunk it? Here's an awesome site with a list of 200 free online courses such as "The Fundamentals of Physics," "Earthquakes," "Spanish," "Introduction to Philiosophy," "The Sun," and there's even a course called, "Death." So many cool classes! You have to check it out. I'm sure you and your long distance love can find a course that you both can enjoy learning together :) 200 Free Online Classes

65. Make a list.

Sometimes I daydream about the things I want to do with Frank when we get to see each other again. I'll see a preview for a movie I think both Frank and I will like. During a drive in town I see a place I'd like to go with him. I get an idea for an awesome vacation we can go on when we have enough money. And Frank always tells me he wants to take me to a place in particular, but you know what? Even though we have put those things down on our mental "to do" list, we probably forget half the things we wanted to do together... And it is funny because often when we're together we can't think of anything to do! So here it comes... Idea #65... Make a list. This idea was suggested by Erin who recommends a great site:

Something that my SO and I have been doing is compiling lists of things we can do when we're together. We use Ta-Da List, a free online to-do list tool. It's simple to use. You can create lists for pretty much anything on there.

So go ahead! Think away! What do you want to do with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Are there any goals you want to set for your relationship? I'm sure you both will be able to come up with a ton of things you want to do together when you finally get to see each other in person again (of for the first time) :)

66. Quiz each other.

Find out how much you really know by quizzing each other. Websites like MakeAQuiz.net can make this really easy and lets you create quizzes with multiple choice answers. Just start thinking about little things about yourself that you think they may not know, along with some questions they should know but you want to see if they remember. Exchange quizzes. I'm sure you'll both learn little things about each other you didn't know before. :) Now do you think Frank will remember what my favorite TV show in the 90's was?

67. Get a Mizpah Charm.

Normally I don't include things on this list that are not free. But I discovered mizpah charms today and felt like sharing. :) People often come to us asking for gift suggestions and this certainly can be a meaningful gift for those in long distance relationships. "Mizpah" is an emotional bond between two people that are separated and "mizpah" jewelery signifies this bond. Charms will often have the quote: "The Lord watch between me and thee when we are absent one from another" or just "Mizpah." The charm is in two pieces and each person wears a part of the charm. They range a lot in price and I found them for $20 and higher.

68. Send your love on a hunt :)

This idea comes from MoMo:

I came up with a wonderful idea thanks to your site today! It's called a scavenger hunt. I started it off by sending my boyfriend an email telling him to look at my pictures on this website we use. When he finished looking through my new pictures of love quotes and sayings, the last one asked him to go to my YouTube account and read my profile which then gave him a link to a love song. On the video comments I asked him to go check his YouTube inbox which had a link to a picture I edited that asked him to check his picture's comments on a site. The comment asked him to go back to YouTube and watch a certain favorite video (love song) and the comment of that love song gave him link to a poem and so on and so on. It's cute, little hidden messages and love poems, songs and photos. Send your love on a little hunt ^_^

69. Tweet.

I got an account on Twitter for this website, and I've realized what a great tool it could be for those in long distance relationships. People constantly update what they're doing at the moment via the web, text, or other third-party applications. You follow the "tweets" as they are called of the people you want. By following your long distance boyfriend/girlfriend's tweets you can stay constantly updated. It can be an alternative to text messaging if you can't afford a text messaging plan, after all Twitter is free to use. So join! Be sure to follow us to get website updates and to be able to participate in our contests! Click here to visit our Twitter page..

70. Send a message in a bottle.

Okay, so here's what you do...

• Write an amazing message.
• Get a plastic bottle.
• Put your message in the bottle.
• Put any other little trinkets you can fit in the bottle or even fill the bottle with pretty shredded paper or easter grass.
• Cap your bottle and apply your "to" and "from" addresses to the side of the bottle.
• Go to the post office to determine the appropriate amount of postage to stick on.
• Mail it!